Johnna, You are still in the very early stages of recovery. Please be patient and kind to yourself. From my perspective, when we rupture, our world goes topsy turvy. Some of us come out okay with little side effects, but for others, itâs not quite so easy. I forgot what my feet were supposed to do to walk, I was unable to have any emotions for several years, I wasnât aware of my thought processing - I called it âblack brainâ which of course most didnât understand. Fortunately a friendâs husband gave me the words and then I was able to share those with everyone including my Neurosurgeon! If forgotten Madereâs husbandâs name, but I remain ever grateful for his kindness.
I had to figure out how to either go over, around, or under the hurdles that resulted from my rupture. Iâd figure it out one day just to lose it in a few hours and get lost on what I was supposed to do. One time, I had to go to the ER and forgot how to sign my own name! BH told me my name, I was a bit curt and said I know my name, I canât remember how to sign it. I was frustrated as no get out. I had signed my name multiple times a day at work. When I looked away from the paper, it was muscle memory that took over and there was my signature exactly where it was supposed to be!
It took a phenomenal amount of support from others and learning to support myself that first year. I had promised Dr. Quintero-Wolfe I would not get on the internet about aneurysms for one year. Keeping my word is very important to me. When the year ended, I found this group and have stayed with them now going on about 9 years. I donât think I could have done my journey any better, the members and the folks @ModSupport have been with me every day. Some go on with their lives, some stay. Itâs like life itself with the ever changing stories. Iâm very fortunate to have found this group!
As always, I cannot stress the importance of proper hydration and eating protein, our brain uses more energy consumption than any other organ in our bodies, so we need to give it what it needs, especially when we rupture. Speak to your doctor or a Registered Dietitian about what you need. When I was in ICU, they sent a dietitian in who told me 90gms a day. This is what the USA recommends but the WHO recommends 120 gms a day. I do better if I can get the 120 gms every day. It helps a lot for the headaches we get.
Many survivors of ruptures experience PTSD soon after theyâve been released from ICU. Since I had no emotions for the first three years or so, Iâve bypassed that. BH didnât and did enough worrying for the both of us. Itâs not fun and often takes a therapist to help us through it. Iâd suggest waiting a few more months as your brain is and will continue to heal before you go to a therapist.
I canât remember a time that Iâve ever been afraid of dying. I have often wondered why as so many people do seem to be afraid. Perhaps itâs due to a joke my Dad told me for as long as I can remember âWeâre born, we pay taxes and then we die, thatâs the only guarantee we have in life.â Maybe itâs because when I worked, I saw a lot of death. Though it could be the religious training I had as a child, Christian based, we were taught that there is a God and that we should celebrate, not mourn when someone dies. Your guess is as good as mine. I just donât worry about it, but I do wonder.
I am no longer a religious person but I still believe in a Higher Power and I see mine every waking hour in everything I look at or do. It brings me comfort and awe, even those pesky squirrels. Most of all, I believe it helps me keep my positive outlook on life. I have friends who are religiously conservative and some who donât believe in a Higher Power. All are really good people and I donât care what they believe or donât, Iâm certainly not going to judge them. BHâs brother used to say, âMy pay grade doesnât go high enough to judge othersâ cracked me up every time he said it. He used to be really judgmental. The very first time we met, he told me I was going to Hell. I got the Bible out of the drawer in his hotel room and told him to prove it. He couldnât. Then I showed him where he may be judged a bit harder than me. Over the years, he became much, much less judgmental.
We are here for you and can be a great source of support. That being said, I think it will help you and your children if you and they can open up to each other. We donât need to carry our burdens alone and family can be a good support group, especially if we arenât throwing skeletons in the closet. The more they understand what your going through, the better they can deal with their own emotions.