I just came from a BA Support Group meeting and heard something that surprised me, especially since it came from a two neurosurgeons. I had an unruptured aneurysm 2 years ago and my surgery was for a clipping (3) one on my left carotid and two on my left ophthalmic artery. At the meeting the neurosurgeons said, [basically - not a direct quote] "...well it is known that people who have unruptured aneurysms do not suffer the same as people with ruptured aneurysms and do not have any depression because the surgery is not that serious, basically they just tip the brain out and put a clip here.." I swear they made it sound like a manicure. The whole time I was sitting there shaking my head. Nobody was disagreeing with them. So either it was just me or everyone else who had an unruptured aneurysm was thinking the same thing and too shocked to say anything also.
During my recovery I struggled with some cognitive issues, personality changes (very short tempered) and severe headaches. I pushed myself to get back to work and perform at the level I was at before surgery. Plus we have to deal with people telling us (like these three) that our surgery was not that serious (luckily my neurosurgeon was not like that and helped me understand that I needed long term help which put me on the road to a full recovery). For me, all of this led to some minor depression in trying to get back "the old me". When I finally was able to get control of the headaches and accept the cognitive issues as "the new me" most of the depression subsided.
I would be interested to know what members of this group think. Do you agree or disagree with their comment?