Yes, my children and friends noticed the change in me. I did not recognize a change but I have less patience, say what I am thinking,and have more headaches. Never had those before. I don’t think they can do such invasive surgery without touching something that affects you. I was clipped because aneursym was being fed by two arteries and large. I have had tias ever since and recently a minor stroke so going to surgeon Monday.
Some of my friends and cousins have told me I am “meaner” now. I do agree, if by meaner they are saying I don’t put up with negativity and speak my mind when they are being rude. I have just chosen to distance myself from them and spend time with nicer people. My doctor put it very nicely. He said you have been given a new life so make new friends. I agree with others who have said since this happened, I appreciate life much more. I am very lucky since I did not have any residual deficits after my rupture and am able to work at my regular job full time, which I think has given me a positive feeling about myself. I would recommend not letting other’s opinions color how you feel about yourself. People who haven’t gone through this should not judge.
I had a rupture 18 months ago. I’m about at a quarter of my pre rupture personality, I’m more quiet, so tired mostly, but improving oh so slowly. I think I am still me though, just slower and more thoughtful and I’m determined to get back as far as I can. Something as severe as a true near death experience has got to make some changes to us, maybe not what others will appreciate, but tough for them. If you are happy with you, it’s ok.
fine line between mean and cold bitter truth, some can't handle the truth, and a lot is how one perceives things. I got accused falsly of being mean when I heard a loud crash upstairs, I ran over to the steps and asked WHAT WAS THAT?? I put on a mean type face around the kids so they don't walk all over me, but they know-lol I am a push over-lol
Dear Dimitris,
Please be assured of my prayers today for you and your wife. What joy you experienced with the birth of your little twins, and what devastation you experienced with the rapid decline in your wife's health. I am overwhelmed with sadness for you and your family. Hopefully, your wife will make a full recovery and be able to be the mother to those babies that she wanted to be. Hang in there, Dimitris, better days are coming for you. God bless you.
Dimitris said:
I wish one day in the future my wife will be able to say the same ..
Currently she is in minimal concious state something like awake comma after a raptured aneurysm on July 2014 which happened an hour after she gave birth to our twins
Sharon E. Morey said: "...Life is too short to be in a down mood. I am grateful that I am still here to be with my wonderful, loving husband, my children, and my amazing grandchildren, including newborn twins, six months old..."
Dear Sharon,
thanks for your reply it gives my courage! I hope that she will recover and she will be able to contact with us some day because she is young. Doctors say that time will show.
Indeed it was a real emotional “free fall” i hope that noone else will live something like this…
Wondering Question Gabriel..There was a few things my Family and Friends notice after my Anuresym, I had a short temper and every and anything would just get me mad. My sense of Smell was Strong no fried or Fast Food close to me .My Mood was like the sea at one point my Family got scare to talk to me. Until one day my Little Cousin started to cry saying what Happen to her loving Cousin who was always happy Not mad n Angry for everything. Please understand I didn't even realise I was doing all that..
one of my aneurysms was in the frontal lobe of the brain, which controls personality trates. my family says I lost my filter. sometimes I say rude things to people and don't even relize it. but other things have changed too, I use cruse words that I never would say before?
love that janet--"glimpses" so true and these are the positives we must celebrate and hold on to dearly. tc xoxo
No one has told me that I've changed, but I know I have. My road rage is gone, and I find I am more forgiving in general. I no longer feel guilty to do things out of a sense of obligation. I was never an emotional person, but I still cry when someone asks about my experience. I'm not even a year out so I know many more changes are to come.
yep Kathryn, a lady in my group therapy cursed like a drunken sailor!! she left the room I said wow!-lol, the therapist stated she never cursed b4 the bleed, tc xoxo
Hi, I too have been told this but I REALLY see it in myself. From the very beginning I just didn’t feel like ME anymore. I suffered from extreme depression because of that but I am now on an antidepressant and doing much better. My husband says I have no filter anymore. I will just blurt out what I am thinking in a conversation even if it’s not particularly appropriate. I don’t usually notice that and I usually have a come back for it. It’s like after an aneurysm, you feel like someone just came into your house and robbed you. It’s like being invaded by something in your body. I never have done any of the usual things that cause an annie. I never smoked, chewed tobacco or anything such as that. Good question. I hope this helps you. Write back if you can.
Christy
Hi, I too have been told this but I REALLY see it in myself. From the very beginning I just didn’t feel like ME anymore. I suffered from extreme depression because of that but I am now on an antidepressant and doing much better. My husband says I have no filter anymore. I will just blurt out what I am thinking in a conversation even if it’s not particularly appropriate. I don’t usually notice that and I usually have a come back for it. It’s like after an aneurysm, you feel like someone just came into your house and robbed you. It’s like being invaded by something in your body. I never have done any of the usual things that cause an annie. I never smoked, chewed tobacco or anything such as that. Good question. I hope this helps you. Write back if you can.
Christy
Because u guys are my Family…This was one of the hardest thing to deal with after my Aneurysm,Looking in the mirror and Asking myself Who is this Person I’m looking at. It may be unusual but DID ANYONE FEEL LIKE???
Yes, Ricky, I felt the same way, it seemed like the person in the mirror couldn't possibly be me. This traumatic illness really does change you, in so many ways.
Realistically, if you have a rupture, you may have some brain damage. It’s not unusual to have personality changes when the brain is damaged. I have problems with unexplained anger that just crops up out of nowhere, for no reason. Worse if I’m tired. My rupture was 10 years ago. You may find you are a “new” you, but you’re still standing!! I thank God every night for another day in my life!
I believe that I too have this very same issue. I’m easily angered. I also look in the mirror and wonder who am I. I now say this is my new normal.
I got calm, look better, and am happier!
Yes I know I have changed in many ways, some good, some bad and some just different. I strongly believe that the personality changes are all a form of PTSD. We have gone through a traumatic life altering experience and all deal with it differently so of course some people will have personality changes and others will not. Perfectly normal and expected.
I sent an answer earlier but I wanted to add another thought... I am an artist. I haven't picked up a paint brush since January 2014 when I had my aneurism. It just seems like too much work. I got out my supplies figuring if I walked by them it might foster some inspiration... but... no. I've been doing more photography... posting photos on Face Book and getting positive response which has been so good for my morale. And I have entered some of my photographs in shows too. So, I'm making SOME progress..
Note:My therapists from re-hab have told me that it's a "new reality" and that if/when I start to paint I might approach it in a totally different way from what I had before, that it could be a process of discovery. Also to bear in mind that I just may not want to paint at all. I'm working on being accepting of all this and trying not to dwell on it. Very hard.