I just moved from MN to GA to live with my sister and her family and I feel like a loser.
Hey Melvin! It can be really difficult to relocate, especially if it’s because of our health issues. There’s a scramble to find health care providers, changes in just about everything we are comfortable with as well, like food, the way people speak, and just getting to know the area. Then there’s the need to conform to the way another household is from the one we were at. All major challenges aren’t they? When we throw in an aneurysm repair, especially if one has ruptured, there adds the loss of independence. Certainly nothing we ever imagined would happen.
When I ruptured we had family that said if anything happened to BH I would move in with them. Not could mind you, would. Where’s my choice in the matter? One lives out in a very busy area of California and another in Alabama. I would not be able to drive in these busy cities, too much traffic. Both live very differently than we do and I’d be totally without any independence and feel obligated to conform to their house rules. And I’d have to use public transportation for the most part. On the flip side of that coin is knowing there’s somewhere I could go if I had to. I feel for you.
Georgia has Emory hospital who has some top notch Neurosurgeons there. A friend of ours developed a rare debilitating brain disorder and since they lived in Atlanta at the time, that’s where he went. They moved out to Southern California and then moved to Florida right at the Gulf and he still flew back for all his appointments. To me, that speaks volumes of the care and trust he has for them.
How long have you lived with your sister? What challenges are you facing now?
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Please don’t feel alone. You can share here. If you would prefer you can Dm me.
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Remember, whatever you’re dealing with today may be very difficult (and I’m sure that’s an understatement), but you’re here. As long as you are, there’s hope for better days. Moving in with a sibling as an adult can’t be easy but I’m so glad you have the support of family. I have read remarkable recovery stories from so many survivors and I know if you share some of your challenges here you will get great information and support from others. And even if there isn’t a solution, just hearing “been there, done that” from someone that has walked in your shoes can help get you through. Stay active here - you are not alone, and a survivor is NEVER a loser. They’re mutually exclusive. You just aren’t in the right place to see or feel that yet. Time is a survivor’s best friend…everything gets better with time.
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Hi Melvin,
Just know I’m thinking of you. I’ve had a similar situation and I know how I felt.
Take care,
Mary
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Sorry to hear this Melvin,and you are not a loser. You have been given another chance to live the life you want so don’t get caught up in this. We challenge. You were blessed to live. Find things that bring you joy and do them. Like others have said come back here and vent. Have your petty party but one day is all you get. Believe me I’ve been there but you don’t want to remain there. You got this!! Living your sibling is nothing you can’t conquer and it’s not forever it’s for now. Stay positive and reach out if you need help! God bless you.
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