Having dealt with neurologically complicated migarines as a patient for 30+ years I’m going to be bold and disagree with your doctor. Keep in mind I, myself, am not a medical professional, I’m a patient.
Migraines are INSIDE the head. True migraines are impacting the brain and brain function (this is not to say other headaches are not just as painful as migraines, but, the source is different therefore the treatments are different).
The reason coffee helps is because caffiene is a vaso-constrictor. Not to get too complicated too fast but there there two fundamental types of headache. One is when the veins in the head are too open causing a rush of blood through the area creating pain. The other is when the veins in the head are too closed and the pressure of the blood being forced through creates pounding/pain, ususally inline with ones heartbeat. The fact that coffee helps mean the veins in the head are too open and allowing too much blood to rush though a given area, the pressure from the rush of blood causing pain. Your veins naturally constrict as a way to control body temp and blood flow in general, it’s just sometimes it’s not being done “properly” given the circumstances which then creates headache. You drinking coffee helps the veins constrict which in turn lowers the blood flow into the area which lowers the pain.
Also, migraines rarely impact the whole head, migraines are to one side. And since a migraine is inside the head massaing the head/neck isn’t painful in and of itself. Again, this is not to say other headaches are not as painful as migraine, it’s that the root cause is different and they require different treatment.
Based on your additional info I’m still think it’s an issue of healing gone awry. It makes sense that the veins in your head are open to get lots of new blood to the area to promote healing. It sounds like your body might be being a bit too hyped for healing, allowing too much blood flow to the area which in turn is generating a headache.
If coffee helps you can certainly try self medicating with it and other caffiene rich beverages. I, personally, am devoted to Diet Mt. Dew. Black tea is another good beverage. There are also medications that are vaso-constrictors that could help in the short term. These include:
ephedrine.
epinephrine.
dopamine.
phenylephrine.
pseudoephedrine.
oxymetazoline.
Although I’m not advocating self medicating with OTC meds prior to speaking to your doctor a good piece of info is the fact that psuedoephedrine is readily available at any drug store. It’s the main active ingredigent in products such as AccuHist DM® (containing Brompheniramine, Dextromethorphan, Guaifenesin, Pseudoephedrine)
Advil Allergy Sinus® (containing Chlorpheniramine, Ibuprofen, Pseudoephedrine)
Advil Cold and Sinus® (containing Ibuprofen, Pseudoephedrine). Maybe treat the headache like an allergy or sinus headache and see what happens?
Again, speak to your doctor before launching into an medication trial, but I think it is something to think about.
azurelle