hi, My Husband had his ruptured Annie on Nov 8th 2013, it had bled for 3 days b4 he finally agreed to go in, the Dr's said he was a miracle, could have been dead or major stroke, They did the coiling procedure and we remained in ICU for almost a month. He developed Vaso spasms, likely related to how long the bleed had occurred. He went down for an angiogram to inject whatever medication to keep his vessels from closing, if any of them did it would cause stroke or possible death, These vaso spasms continued for 16 days, so I would go down every time for them to do the procedure and pray to God that they would keep the vessels from closing. He is doing well now, and pretty much back to his regular routine. But I find him very distant from me and I also feel like he is a stranger and not really connected at all. I have read up on the effects of PTSD which includes isolating from friends and family, and becoming "different" is it possible that I am experiencing PTSD and that would explain the feelings of not really caring about him any more? we have been married almost 30 yrs and I have no desire to be with him and we are like strangers now. It's really difficult cuz we had a really great relationship prior to the Annie and were looking forward to be just the 2 of us again, as our youngest graduated from College this spring and has moved to Grand Forks, empty nest, but no ambition or even thought of our getting together and being just the 2 of us again, as excited as we were for this b4 the Annie. Can't imagine doing anything with hi just the 2 of us.
Hi Tami...I so respect you for sharing your story...infact, so often us survivors are diagnosed with "PTSD" after surgery, etc., but never thought about our caretakers such as yourself having PTSD...and you know it makes sense. Don't suffer...sweetie talk your family Doctor tell him/her all your feelings. Perhaps getting referred to someone that you can talk to through therapy. Also, be sure to get out and do something fun for YOU...just getting away from it all...please remember one thing...marriage is for the "good times and the bad times" and your husband is early in the healing and it takes time for one's "new normal"...give him that time....He didn't want any of this...you are a smart lady you are looking at yourself...now try and get the help you need...to make better future decision...Gosh you have my thoughts and positive vibes your way...~ Colleen