My mom will be coming home in a week or so. She is a major fall risk and her annie left her with a safety unawareness issue. She lives in her own house with her husband who, sadly, is a doormat when it comes to her. She is also very stubborn by nature.
In you experience with loved ones, do you recommend I just put a lock on her basent door? The basent houses her washer and dryer and much of her clothing (strange storage system; she is a yoyo dieter and has various disorganized closets with various sizes). I think in a momentary lapse of judgment she will attempt the stairs when no one is looking. She is also resisting hiring a full time companion to supervise her. She is holding on to her purse strings like nobody’s business.
Hi CJ. I’m sorry to hear about your mom but don’t worried she’s on her way to recovery. One day at a time. There are certain steps, for a successful recuperation period. First, and foremost safety is key. I’m a SAH survivor, its been 2 years with several falls! All minor but very painful, and no broken bones. Is your mom a senior? The risk at that age of breaking a hip etc, is very serious. Closing the basement door, is just one of your many safety issues. Have you handles in the bathroom for her to hold on, or a bath/bench? You will need an expert- an occupational therapist. She/he will be able to tell you what safety measures, you will have to put in place and equipments. You would have to have a serious conversation with her husband to assist you in this endeavour. I fell downstairs, about 5 months ago. Braced myself, and held my head, I didn’t want to banged it. Thank God I was OK, but I was alone home! I spent a hour on the floor, before I was able to get up all bruised. But I am a fairly healthy woman, with balance issues recovering from a ruptured aneurysm. Please CJ take all the necessary precautions for your mom, you don’t want to be surprised! Even hiring a full time companion. My thoughts, and prayers are with your mom, her husband, and you.
Hi CJ...I am so sorry that you must go through this situation...I am at a loss and don't know what to say at this point...Have you spoken to the social worker/patient advocate worker at your mom's hospital to find out what they suggest will help you out in this situation...? Does your mom have a "power of attorney" who could advocate for her? Thoughts out to you ~ Colleen
Thanks for the feedback. Colleen, her he’s and is power of attorney and she is not incompetent enough for him to exercise it. I really feel stuck because I have no rights to overrule her wishes even though she needs these things for her own good.