How did you come to acceptance? I’m having such a hard time and fear I’ll never accept what has happened to me
Perspective helps me. Look around and discover how many people and even some animals have overcome great obstacles in their life. Read the biographies on a bunch of special Olympic athletes and be inspired by their tenacity. Look for what you have the power to change and start with that.
I pray a short prayer every day. One thing I ask is to guide me in the direction I am supposed to go.
we never will totally accept it imo, we just learn to adjust and live with it but things will ease up in time, tc xoxo
Mine been six years still finding it hard to cope accept at times there good times then bad ones
I had mine 4 years ago and their is not a day I don’t think about it I thank god he gave me another chance at life
Two years here and I’m not sure I’ve accepted…just adapted ands trying to move on as “normal” as people think I should…
Ive had 2 aneurysiums both clipped first one 23 years ago whilst pregnant which leaked so kiĺled part of my brain but I did survive and have an amazing gorgious luv of my life son whose father left when 3 weeks old. Second one only 3 years ago so chances of having another one very high. I find it hard every day I wiĺl probuly never accept but I just get on with every day
I had mine 4 years ago but feel very lucky that I only lost my hearing in my left ear and still have to pace myself energy-wise. Naps are my best friends. I am now in my 70’s and know lots of people worse off than I am. I am also a big believer in prayer.
My anuerysm is small… 3 mm, unruptured. I am a single mom of three and the hardest thing was coming to terms with the terrifying thought of them living without me. It’s been two and a half years, and I still cry, scared of blowing my nose, sneezing, coughing, things that shouldn’t scare a 37 year old. I thank God every day that I am here, and pray to God that monitoring will be enough. . . Peace and love to ALL of of you.
My life was changed by what happened to me. This has led to other areas of acceptance in life, and I think it is an ongoing process. One I am glad to be alive to experience.
It's been 3 years since my aneurysm was clipped. I have another small one they are watching. I think about what happened every day although I'd never tell anyone that, they would think I'm crazy. I think about death alot (and what could have happened) and I think about how damn lucky I am they accidentally found them. Whenever you feel down, think about all the good in your life. Sometimes I sit on my deck outside and it's as simple as thinking how lucky I am to see the sunset, or the change of seasons while I sip coffee. We are all lucky. We are all here. And we all understand you even while other's may not because we have all gone thru this.
When I feel down, and question "Why did this happen to me?" and "It's not fair!", I can feel better fast by focusing on others less fortunate. We all know someone who has it worse: a woman with cancer whose fighting through chemo, someone homeless, a soldier that lost a limb in war, a new mom that loses a child. When I'm feeling sad, (I get to live despite two annies), I focus my energy beyond myself and pray for others.
I've had 4 surgeries with last one 2 1/2 years ago. 2nd and 3rd surgery husband left. Had to retire early on 4th because cognitive thinking way off. When I think this is me and do things to make life easier I feel good inside and do well. Focus what needs to be done making it easier in daily life so that feeling good inside and do well. Keep that focus and you will continue to do well and feel good inside. Every day it becomes easier and easier. All is good.
Everyday is a previous gift. I get to spend each day with my children and watch them grow. It is difficult to accept the new me but I look at my children and thank God for life.
Hi Chris,
I am over 9 years post rupture and I hope you do find some thing that can be helpful to you in this thread. These are some of the things that helped me, and I will say that to fully accept where I am on this journey and be okay with where I am, it has only been about 3 years ago.
1. Remember that sometimes, we have absolutely no control over events or situations in our lives. The one thing we do have control of is how we decide to handle the situation. You can choose to see things in different perspectives-- sometimes it's just a little harder to see the other side of things.
2. Seek and/or accept support from people in your life-- friends, family, co-workers, therapists, support groups. (You are already doing this!) Also surround yourself with positive people who are supportive.
3. Practice gratitude. There was a point in time when things were really tough, and I found that although I am generally a positive person, I was having a lot of negative thoughts. I challenged myself to find one thing I am grateful for each day for a month, even if they were the smallest things in life.
4. Remember that times of great difficulty can lead to the greatest time of personal growth.
5. I have found so much meaning in helping others; especially mentoring youth and young adults (I was 16 when I had my rupture) who have had acquired brain injuries and are at earlier stages in their journeys. Volunteering can just make me feel wonderful, and everyone can benefit.
6. When I say I have reached "acceptance" that certainly does not mean that I don't think about what has happened to me, and how it has changed my life so dramatically. Sometimes, I feel like what I went through is like a really long and weird dream. Sometimes I still feel sad, or frustrated or wonder where I would be if this did not happen. Sometimes I wish things were easier, like it was before all this happened. And that is okay too. For me, expressive writing has really helped me sort through the myriad of emotions I have felt over the many years, and for whatever reason, writing my thoughts down gives me some sort of emotional release. Also, when you speak of "acceptance" I am not sure if you were referring to Kubler-Ross' 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. But the various stages of grief that people often feel when loss occurs are not necessarily linear. I know for me, I have experienced all of the stages in various orders and have revisited some (sometimes multiple times), and expect that in the future, I may dip back into other stages other than acceptance...and that is okay too. When I get to that point, I hope I remember to refer to a similar "tip sheet" that I have created for myself to help me get through the process.
I hope that in time you will find what you are searching for. I wish you all the best!
Irene
Good morning everyone, I am 14 months and 10 days post my aneurysm/coiling. I want to share with you the laws of attraction. According to the laws of attraction our brain does not know when we are day dreaming. I’m currently waiting on the results of cognition and memory test which I just had on 6-12-15. I am beginning to embrace my day dreams and allow the universe to respond to me. That I think that I am! I’m so tired of feeling like I just met me! So I decided to begin a new relationship with myself. I realize I’m never going to be who I used to be so I see myself doing well in my mind and the universe will hear me. To those of us who are struggling with acceptance tap into the part of you that is NEW!
wow irene!! that was awesome ty, you should write a book with this as a basis= you write very well!
Irene Tran said:
Hi Chris,
I am over 9 years post rupture and I hope you do find some thing that can be helpful to you in this thread. These are some of the things that helped me, and I will say that to fully accept where I am on this journey and be okay with where I am, it has only been about 3 years ago.
1. Remember that sometimes, we have absolutely no control over events or situations in our lives. The one thing we do have control of is how we decide to handle the situation. You can choose to see things in different perspectives-- sometimes it's just a little harder to see the other side of things.
2. Seek and/or accept support from people in your life-- friends, family, co-workers, therapists, support groups. (You are already doing this!) Also surround yourself with positive people who are supportive.
3. Practice gratitude. There was a point in time when things were really tough, and I found that although I am generally a positive person, I was having a lot of negative thoughts. I challenged myself to find one thing I am grateful for each day for a month, even if they were the smallest things in life.4. Remember that times of great difficulty can lead to the greatest time of personal growth.
5. I have found so much meaning in helping others; especially mentoring youth and young adults (I was 16 when I had my rupture) who have had acquired brain injuries and are at earlier stages in their journeys. Volunteering can just make me feel wonderful, and everyone can benefit.
6. When I say I have reached "acceptance" that certainly does not mean that I don't think about what has happened to me, and how it has changed my life so dramatically. Sometimes, I feel like what I went through is like a really long and weird dream. Sometimes I still feel sad, or frustrated or wonder where I would be if this did not happen. Sometimes I wish things were easier, like it was before all this happened. And that is okay too. For me, expressive writing has really helped me sort through the myriad of emotions I have felt over the many years, and for whatever reason, writing my thoughts down gives me some sort of emotional release. Also, when you speak of "acceptance" I am not sure if you were referring to Kubler-Ross' 5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. But the various stages of grief that people often feel when loss occurs are not necessarily linear. I know for me, I have experienced all of the stages in various orders and have revisited some (sometimes multiple times), and expect that in the future, I may dip back into other stages other than acceptance...and that is okay too. When I get to that point, I hope I remember to refer to a similar "tip sheet" that I have created for myself to help me get through the process.
I hope that in time you will find what you are searching for. I wish you all the best!
Irene
One day at a time, darlin'!!!!
I say that as a survivor of 3 aneurysms, one of which blew wide open in a massive SAH rupture.
It was all three years ago and there's a reminder every day of the misadventure. I remember, give thanks that I'm still here with my loved ones, and move on to something else more meaningful than yesterday.
Hugs and grace to you...
Hi I am 2 years post rupture. Hmmmm…acceptance is a really big word for a 2 year old brain… Because I like to say it’s my new brain, because even though there are so many parts of it that are old and rusty, everything about me post rupture is somehow new and just when I think I’m getting to know me better and figuring things out something changes and I have to compensate for the change. For example: drive to work ever day for 4 years same way…no problem post anny need directions, get them down pact seasons change, things don’t look the same, surroundings are all different… Get lost again need directions for another 3 months what happens next? You guessed it! Seasons change again, back to the GPS if I could figure out how to use the dang thing. Point is… Things will always change, roll with it you are a new you! Look in the mirror in the morning and say hi nice to see alive and well! It’s going to be fabulous getting to know you! God bless!