Hey Ant I was exactly where you were a few weeks ago, my boyfriend who is only 28yo had those same procedures done and he was in an induced coma but as of today he is responding to commands, moving his fingers and upper body slowly. Guess what he even gave me a smile today!!! So just know that this road is a long road with progress as long as you keep positive vibes and energies around her. I know this a scary time but you have to talk to her, and make sure your mother knows that whatever she needs you will be there to support her. I hope your mother progress as well as my BF.
Thank you all for taking the time to read and respond! So it’s been a month! Mom got transferred to a rehab/therapy center 1 week ago. As I stated before she is slowly but surely gaining movement again in her left side ! But her mind is still not there she recognizes everyone but that’s about it. Has really really really short term memory now she forgets within seconds! And says really really really random things! We visit her everyday and spend as much time as we can with her. Today I gave her a pen and a sheet of paper to write on, I told her to write a couple of things and she did fairly well. A lot of scribble scrabble but for the most part she did well… I also gave her a single red rose and she tried eating it!! I feel like my mom is a big baby now! (lol)
hi Ant !! thanks for the good news-movement on the left( not the rose)lol. interesting tho- i heard restaurants use red in their signage & interiors because they say it promotes appetite! Glad to hear she's in the rehab-they are the experts in recovery,i prayed to get out of rehab but looking back they were awesome and were the best thing for me,also happy to hear of your daily visits, they are so important-i'll never forget my 52nd birthday when my sister visited me with mom & 5 nephews- they probably thought i was not all there too not talking much but i remember & it inspired me for days because their love overpowered any negative thought-then i was 1 month post sah. your mom is still in our thoughts & prayers along with you and your whole family!
I think my daughter suffered as you are although we are both older than you and your mom. :) I think she is the one who guided me to this site. She has taken on the role of first responder and general support for my recovery. For when your mother comes home and during the first stages of that recovery stage, I would recommend checking out http://www.lotsahelpinghands.com/ My daughter used them to set up help with meals and taking me out to walk/exercise. You can set up online a private, individual network of your mother's friends. You put in the needs and the friends can sign up for specific tasks and dates. Trying to organize that sort of thing by phone is time-consuming and difficult to manage. This website makes it easy for someone who wants to help to see what is needed and to volunteer without having to make phone contact.
Another thing my daughter did was give me one of those 5"x7" bound composition books and ask me to record things about my recovery and questions, etc. I didn't have physical movement issues, just memory. Friends would come visit me and by evening I couldn't tell my husband who had been there. I believe I asked for the same information over and over. My rupture/clipping was just over a year ago and my daughter tells me I still question things that have already been discussed and settled. In the first few months I was not aware that my memory was any worse than "senior moments". My sisters assured me that what was going on with me was quite different and significantly more severe than that. Getting all the parts of memory back is a long and rather slow process. Hang in there and I wish your mom and you a return to good health. I should also add that at almost 4 months out from the "event", when I seemed to be reasonably well on the road to recovery, I had an episode of TGA, transient global amnesia. It means you don't remember anything and can strike just about anybody randomly as far as I can find out. My daughter said I was on something like a 90 second loop. I asked a question and she answered and then i asked the question again--on and on. It lead to an overnight in the hospital without us learning anything other than I probably didn't have a stroke or seizure. It abated after about 12 hours. I've had a couple of other episodes of significant memory loss since then too, mostly after I have gotten to tired out.
