# The journey starts again **URL:** \ **Category:** General\ **Tags:** general\ **Created:** [August 6, 2023, 8:05am UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503 "2023-08-06T08:05:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![oct20](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f0a364/32.png) [@oct20](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/oct20)\ **Post date:** [February 29, 2024, 6:23pm UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/81 "2024-02-29T18:23:07Z")
@ModSupport I don’t know what to say but I feel sorry for you, really sorry . Hang in there, that’s the only thing you can do. ---
**Author:** ![Peter](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/peter/32/9666_2.png) [@Peter](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/Peter)\ **Post date:** [February 29, 2024, 10:01pm UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/82 "2024-02-29T22:01:57Z")
Thank you for sharing this update, Merl. It is triggering thoughts of successful healing your way. Cho Ku Rei. ---
**Author:** ![ModSupport](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/modsupport/32/5675_2.png) [@ModSupport](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/ModSupport)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2024, 7:53am UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/83 "2024-03-01T07:53:26Z")
I got the call this morning. Seems I’m up for the chop-chop on the 6th. 5 days to go and I’ll be counting down each one. I won’t say I’m panicking, more resolved to the fact, but that doesn’t mean my mind isn’t travelling at a million miles an hour with all of those ‘What if…?’ type questions. Merl ---
**Author:** ![Peter](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/peter/32/9666_2.png) [@Peter](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/Peter)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2024, 8:32am UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/84 "2024-03-01T08:32:40Z")
Hi, Merl. Knowing something definitive is often less stressful than not knowing anything either way. And what you describe as your mind traveling at a million miles an hour is often described by others as our _monkey mind_. Here is a very simple and thought-free procedure (below) that does a very effective job of bringing our thoughts to a much needed rest. It can be performed any time and any place, and as often as you would like too. God speed the next 5 days in your journey to recuperative good health. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8WFV1V8F-gQ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8WFV1V8F-gQ) ---
**Author:** ![Moltroub](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/moltroub/32/8285_2.png) [@Moltroub](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/Moltroub)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2024, 11:11am UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/85 "2024-03-01T11:11:25Z")
He has a really soothing voice Peter, thanks for sharing! ---
**Author:** ![oct20](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f0a364/32.png) [@oct20](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/oct20)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2024, 4:57pm UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/86 "2024-03-01T16:57:06Z")
@ModSupport I will be thinking of you and praying for your recovery.❤️‍🩹 ---
**Author:** ![Spousecaregiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Spousecaregiver](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/Spousecaregiver)\ **Post date:** [March 1, 2024, 5:44pm UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/87 "2024-03-01T17:44:13Z")
I wish I had some helpful words. Peace be with you. ---
**Author:** ![ModSupport](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/modsupport/32/5675_2.png) [@ModSupport](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/ModSupport)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2024, 4:23am UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/88 "2024-03-02T04:23:35Z")
Ohh, don’t worry, I have the words… …but none of them should be used here 🤣 One of my biggest self-battles have been accepting the fact: I have no control. I can be a bit of a control freak. I am in control of me, but here in this situation, I have no control. I can’t say I’m at peace with it all but I can say I accept it (OK, so, semi-accept 😆 ) Merl ---
**Author:** ![Peter](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/peter/32/9666_2.png) [@Peter](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/Peter)\ **Post date:** [March 2, 2024, 4:57pm UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/89 "2024-03-02T16:57:14Z")
Sometimes, it is enough to _not resist_ a situation or condition even if you cannot embrace it (aka accept). It is resistance that drains our cognitive and bodily energies. ---
**Author:** ![ModSupport](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/modsupport/32/5675_2.png) [@ModSupport](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/ModSupport)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2024, 7:48am UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/90 "2024-03-05T07:48:19Z")
OK people, I’m signing off for a couple of days and I’ll see you all on the other side. Thank you for the support. It means a lot, a hell of a lot, so thanks. Merl ---
**Author:** ![Moltroub](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/moltroub/32/8285_2.png) [@Moltroub](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/Moltroub)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2024, 11:13am UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/91 "2024-03-05T11:13:19Z")
Best of luck to you Merl! ---
**Author:** ![Judi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7993a0/32.png) [@Judi](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/Judi)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2024, 11:56am UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/92 "2024-03-05T11:56:40Z")
Good luck Merl. We’ll be anxiously awaiting news… ---
**Author:** ![Peter](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/peter/32/9666_2.png) [@Peter](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/Peter)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2024, 3:34pm UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/93 "2024-03-05T15:34:50Z")
![image](https://us1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/uploads/ben_baf_community/original/2X/5/5a235e4e53647e146be3d4d9884b97c511e92800.jpeg) ---
**Author:** ![oct20](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f0a364/32.png) [@oct20](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/oct20)\ **Post date:** [March 5, 2024, 10:27pm UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/94 "2024-03-05T22:27:14Z")
@ModSupport 🫶❤️‍🩹 ---
**Author:** ![ModSupport](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/modsupport/32/5675_2.png) [@ModSupport](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/ModSupport)\ **Post date:** [March 6, 2024, 1:24pm UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/95 "2024-03-06T13:24:56Z")
I will forward all of your well wishes to Merl Sharon ---
**Author:** ![ModSupport](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/modsupport/32/5675_2.png) [@ModSupport](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/ModSupport)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2024, 6:31am UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/96 "2024-03-08T06:31:52Z")
Firstly, I want to thank you all for the support, it’s all very much appreciated. I had the biopsy taken and they removed my tonsils. They believe that it was just an abscess, but I’m still waiting for the pathology results. I have another neuro appointment Friday and I’m hoping that they will come back saying no craniotomy will be needed. I’ll let you know when I know. Thanks again Merl ---
**Author:** ![Moltroub](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/moltroub/32/8285_2.png) [@Moltroub](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/Moltroub)\ **Post date:** [March 8, 2024, 11:34am UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/97 "2024-03-08T11:34:05Z")
Don’t try to eat a T-Bone steak, go for the sherbet and Jello instead! Just a bit of experience talking. ---
**Author:** ![oct20](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f0a364/32.png) [@oct20](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/oct20)\ **Post date:** [March 9, 2024, 3:33pm UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/98 "2024-03-09T15:33:56Z")
@ModSupport We are all hoping for a positive result from the pathology test of your tonsils and off course from your appointment with your neurosurgeon. When I was in my mid forties I had a similar problem with my tonsils, I had an infection that didn’t go away, it became a small abscess and it was worse on the right side. We decided to remove the tonsils and when the pathology results came back it showed that it was just an infection and the tonsils were atrophied. The surgeon said that no matter how much antibiotics they would give me, it would never get rid of the infection due to the atrophy. I’m hoping that you get a similar result. It will take a while for the throat to heal so go easy on the food. Scrambled eggs, soup, bananas, ice cream anything soft that you can think of. All the best to you. ---
**Author:** ![ModSupport](https://sea1.discourse-cdn.com/flex019/user_avatar/www.bafsupport.org/modsupport/32/5675_2.png) [@ModSupport](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/ModSupport)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2024, 8:25am UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/99 "2024-03-10T08:25:43Z")
Thanks @oct20 > [@oct20](#): > > I had an infection that didn’t go away, it became a small abscess and it was worse on the right side. We decided to remove the tonsils and when the pathology results came back it showed that it was just an infection… And that’s the hope/wish. I’ve also got the ache of them removing ALL of my bottom teeth, so I’m dealing with both together. Add that to the regular headache and I’m keeping myself well dosed up 🤣 > [@oct20](#): > > It will take a while for the throat to heal so go easy on the food. Scrambled eggs, soup, bananas, ice cream anything soft that you can think of. I agree it’ll take a bit to settle, but I expected that. It’s interesting that you say about soft foods because that’s what I had the wife make, but the hospital recommend cold toast, buttered, for the day after 😲 . But I was too chicken to even consider that, I had milk moist (saturated) cereal. Not quite as course. I waited a few days before trying toast. They reckon it clears the layer of dead mucosal cells, seemingly to aid healing. But the day after, toast?? Ohh hell no. I’m no self-masochist 😆 Merl ---
**Author:** ![oct20](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f0a364/32.png) [@oct20](https://www.bafsupport.org/u/oct20)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2024, 12:06pm UTC](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503/100 "2024-03-10T12:06:42Z")
@ModSupport I feel sorry for you, but you seem to be in a good spirit after all. I agree with the toast, that was a strange breakfast to recommend. I guess the pain will gradually get better day by day and we are all waiting to hear back from you. [Previous page](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503.md?page=4) [Next page](https://www.bafsupport.org/t/the-journey-starts-again/17503.md?page=6)