It’s a rather chilly morning here in NC, it was 26 d F when I walked our surgery recovering dog. Good thing she doesn’t have to have the cut IV bag put over her paw anymore, makes walking a bit difficult for her. But I saw a deer meandering around in the woods eating acorns, so that was really nice. It’s always amazing to me how well deer blend in the woods this time of year. If the deer hadn’t been moving, I wouldn’t have seen it.
We have one wonderful new member to welcome! @Butterflybob is Down Under in Queensland Australia. Sarah has already had her angiogram which came due to a really bad migraine that she shares should have sent her right to the hospital, but she didn’t go. She did go to the first doctor she could get, who sent her for an MRI. The MRI showed a MCA aneurysm. She was then sent for her angiogram and is waiting for the results. However the surgeon did tell her that the aneurysm is abnormal and bumpy. I wonder if those bumps are daughter sacks? The surgeon would like to do surgery sooner rather than later. Sarah is young to me at 34, has a wonderful husband and beautiful girls! Welcome Sarah!
If you’ve been reading the topics, you know @Tracy is having a rough go of it with Tony. It made me think of the importance of having our wishes known to our loved ones and being prepared legally for anything that comes to us.
Any and everyone with a cerebral aneurysm should know how important it is to be prepared. I live by the old adage of prepare for the worse, but expect the best. In fact, when I had my 3rd repair, we were told that although I wasn’t a good candidate for a craniotomy, I may have to have one.
We went to our elder attorney and updated our wills covering every contingency the three of us could think of. Our Elder Attorney also had looked over our first wills and said they weren’t worth the paper they were written on! It’s really important to have a good attorney. She told us that here in NC with the will we had, anyone of our family members could have just moved in and we couldn’t do a thing about it.
I had never looked at the particulars of the laws here in NC, only the ones dealing with intestate (dying without a will). One of our friend’s dealt with the issue when her husband died of a heart attack and man was she scared! She could have lost a lot as the house she helped to pay for wasn’t in her name and his mother had the right to 50% of his estate.
Please, please know the laws wherever you’re living. Don’t assume you are covered just because you are married. We have a friend whose daughter and husband refuse to discuss having a will and we don’t know why, just that she stops the conversation dead in its tracks. I told her once that the only thing guaranteed from the second we are born is that we will one day die. Why not be prepared? I also reminded her that with four of us having been CPS Social Workers, with well over 100 years together in the field, we could not all count the number of times children came into care because their single parent had passed away for whatever reason and there was no will to state their wishes. Trust me when I say there aren’t many people who want their children in foster care. Make a plan!